Tuesday, July 24, 2012

Stressors during Childhood

When I was was younger around middle school age my family went through a huge adjustment period that was quite chaotic. My older sister was  prison in Virginia and we lived in NC; my mother was informed that her 5 children we being placed in the foster care system.  The four older children where placed in the same home, but my nephew who was only two month old was placed in a separate home. I remember my mother and father having conversations about getting  a lawyer if needed to get custody of the children and eventually my mother and father made the trip to get all of my nieces and nephews.  At that point four of them came to live with us and then one with my aunt.  It was difficult having my little sister who was in elementary school and three other children around her age and an infant in a three bedroom home.  Everyone's routine had to change, all attention was focused on helping my niece and nephews adjust to school, new rules, and dealing with the overall experience.  My role changed too I was the oldest so I really had to step up and care for everyone.  My parents where stressed not only trying to care for everyone but handle what was happening to my sister.  Eventually my sister came on and my niece and nephews moved in with my grandfather, except for my youngest nephew because he was an infant he stayed with us.  To this day he lives with us and considers my parents his mother and father even though they have not legally adopted him yet.  My family dynamic was forever changed but eventually the chaos ended and we settled in.  

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